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Pro-Choice vs. Pro-Life

Writer's picture: Darius LaneDarius Lane

Pro-life vs. pro-choice—it’s one of those things everybody argues about, but barely anyone’s actually listening. Let me just say this up front: I’m pro-choice, loud and proud, but I can still see where some pro-life folks are coming from. Doesn’t mean I’m about to agree, but I get it. So let’s talk about it—for real.


First off, there’s what Conscious Lee calls the “conservative contradiction.” If you’re pro-life, shouldn’t you care about the whole life? Like, where’s the fight for prenatal care, adoption reform, or making sure kids born into rough situations actually have a shot at life? Quiet as it’s kept, it seems like a lot of folks are all about “saving babies” until those babies are born. Then suddenly, they don’t want to hear about food stamps, childcare, or CPS doing their job. That don’t make sense.


And here’s where y’all really lose me: this whole “well, they should suffer the consequences” talk. So now the baby is punishment? I thought y’all said the child was a blessing. Which one is it? Make it make sense. You can’t sit up here calling yourself pro-life and then use the child as some moral slap on the wrist for the parent. That’s not valuing life—that’s just being petty.


Look, I’m not saying people shouldn’t take responsibility for their actions. What I’m saying is if you’re gonna force someone to bring a life into the world, then you better show up for that life too.

Here’s my take: I’m pro-life in the sense that I care about the quality of life. Big difference. I want kids to have a shot at something good, not just be born into a world that’s gonna chew them up and spit them out. And yes, I’m pro-choice because I believe the person carrying that life should have the final say. Period. Historically, women have carried all the weight—physically, emotionally, financially. Even if you call abortion murder, it’s still the mother who’s dealing with that choice. Not you. Not your opinion. Hers.

This conversation reminds me of Margaret Garner, she inspired the book Beloved by Toni Morrison. Her story is wild and heartbreaking and messy, just like life. She escaped slavery with her kids, but when she was about to be caught, she decided to kill them rather than let them go back to that hell. Some people say she was wrong; others say it was the ultimate act of love. What I see is a woman making an impossible decision in impossible circumstances. And honestly? That’s what choice is about—understanding the context and making the best decision you can with what you’ve got.


To my pro-choice people: I get why y’all fight so hard. It’s about autonomy and freedom, and that’s important. To my pro-life friends: I see the heart behind your argument. You value life, and that matters. But let’s be real—if you care about life, it can’t just stop at birth. It’s gotta be about making sure these kids have what they need to grow, thrive, and succeed. Otherwise, what are we even talking about?


Conscious Lee says, “Education is elevation,” and he’s right. Let’s elevate this conversation. It’s not about sides; it’s about making sure we’re fighting for the same thing: a world where life actually means something beyond just existing. Where kids have what they need. Where people have choices. Where empathy shows up more than judgment. That’s the world I’m trying to see. How about you?

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